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Thoughts of suicide or self-harm can feel overpowering and isolating. But you do have the strength to overcome these feelings and build a life worth living. And you don’t have to do it alone.

If you or someone you know is having thoughts about suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 for free, confidential, 24/7 support.

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Suicidal thoughts and self-harming behaviors can be greatly reduced through therapy. If you struggle with intense feelings of hopelessness and can’t imagine ever feeling better, or if you have attempted to relieve emotional pain through physical pain, it’s time to give therapy a try.

There are underlying influences driving your suicidal thoughts and self-harming behaviors. You may be feeling increased anxiety, agitation, rage or anger, mood swings, irritability, exhaustion or hopelessness.

Sometimes people experience suicidal thoughts or urges to injure themselves while suffering from a mental health issue, such as Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Anxiety, Pervasive Emotion Dysregulation or PTSD. Others may have experienced a recent or past trauma. Still others may have no history of mental health issues at all.

No matter the issues or emotions causing your suicidal thoughts and self-harming behaviors, it is important to know what therapy can offer you. Even if you have tried therapy in the past and are hesitant to try again, we urge you to contact Sparlin Mental Health (Sparlin) for an evaluation of symptoms and consideration of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).

after one overcome self harm and suicidality with help of treatment

Overcoming Suicidal Thoughts and Self-Injury through DBT

If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts and do not believe you can keep yourself safe, please call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 immediately for help. Support from the Lifeline is free, confidential and available 24/7.

Once you are safe and ready for treatment to address future suicidal or self-harming urges, we often recommend DBT. This evidence-based therapy model is designed to assist in the transformation of behavior patterns, including suicide ideation and self-harm.

This type of treatment involves individual meetings with a therapist as well as a weekly skills group and unlimited phone coaching from your therapist. Participants who are committed to the program and engaged in sessions will develop the skills to:

  • Reduce the frequency and intensity of suicidal or self-harming behaviors and thoughts
  • Gain control over those urges if they do occur
  • Establish goals
  • Envision and create a life worth living

Some children and young adults may benefit from professional help that extends beyond DBT offered through traditional outpatient therapy. Sparlin@Home is an intensive, in-home therapy program designed to stabilize your child’s emotional, behavioral and mental health crises and prevent the need for hospitalization or out-of-home placement.

How Do I Help Someone I Think May Be Suicidal?

If you’ve landed here because you believe someone you love may be self-harming or having suicidal thoughts and you think that person is in immediate danger, call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 immediately.

Signs that your loved one may be thinking of ending their life include:

  • They are withdrawing from family and friends.
  • They engage in self-destructive or risk-taking behavior, especially involving alcohol, drugs or weapons.
  • They have verbally expressed thoughts about suicide-related behavior and suicide ideation or have talked about being a burden to others.
  • They have rapid mood swings, or you notice sudden cheerfulness after a period of despondency.
  • You have noticed them putting affairs in order, which might include giving away personal possessions or updating a will.
  • They have had major changes to sleeping patterns or eating habits.
  • They’ve lost energy or interest in personal hygiene or appearance.
  • You have noticed physical signs of self-harm.

It is important that you take all references to suicide or self-harm seriously, whether a person is exhibiting outward symptoms or not. Do not assume anyone is “looking for attention” or “just being dramatic.” Ask the person if they are thinking about suicide and urge them to get help. If they are in immediate danger, call 911.

The reality is that you cannot force an adult to make an appointment with a therapist, but you can encourage them to get help. Be supportive and compassionate, provide any resources for recovery that you can find and make sure they know you are there for them.

There is Hope at Sparlin Mental Health

Sparlin, formerly known as St. Louis Center for Family Development, provides trauma-informed, evidence-based therapy services in a compassionate, non-judgmental environment. All of our therapists are trained in the latest developments in mental health research, giving them a better understanding of symptoms and behaviors, and many specialize in DBT.

Life can get better. We can provide hope and help you overcome your thoughts and emotions. Contact our office today to learn more about self-harm and suicidality therapy at Sparlin.

Suicide Prevention Resources

Suicide Prevention Lifeline
**This is a national hotline but will redirect to local resources.**

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline provides free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for an individual or their loved ones, and best practices for professionals. The website offers help for many different populations such as Native Americans, Veterans, Deaf/Hard of Hearing, and options for assistance in Spanish.

The lifeline is available 24/7, and the resources online help educate those who need help as well as those who have a loved one who may need help. There is also information and resources for professionals and providers.

Trevor Lifeline

The Trevor Project offers counseling for young adults in crisis, feeling suicidal, or in need of a safe and judgement free place to talk. They especially cater to LGBTQ youth between the ages of 13-24 and allies to provide them with resources and answers to questions about sexual orientation, gender identity, and more.

The lifeline is available 24/7, 365 days a year. The online instant messaging is available 7 days a week from 3-10 PM, Eastern Standard Time and 12-7 PM Pacific Standard Time. The texting option is available Monday-Friday from 3-10 PM, Eastern Standard Time and 12-7 PM Pacific Standard Time and standard text messaging rates apply. There is also a social networking site for LGBTQ youth and allies to connect with one another.

Behavioral Health Response

Behavioral Health Response offers confidential telephone counseling 24/7, 365 days a year, but should not be used in the case of emergencies. Also, they offer mobile outreach services, community referral services and critical incident stress management.

This website lays out many resources available to those in St. Louis to help with their mental health as well as trainings for practitioners and professionals.